The dreaded ADD battle

Attention deficit disorder aka ADD. If you have it, you know how miserable it can be. If you don’t have it, it’s hard to understand.

I think kids are over-diagnosed so often. Just because a kid can’t sit still or has a little trouble focusing, doctors automatically slap them with an ADHD or ADD label and put them on meds. Maybe they’re just being a kid! Lots of kids don’t want to sit still, run like crazy and have a short attention span! But they eventually grow out of it.

Someone with true ADD has a hard battle. I have it and have never been medicated for it. That was a personal choice of my parents and later mine as an adult. Having ADD is very difficult. I struggle often to focus, even on little tasks. If I’m watching tv, I can’t listen to a conversation at the same time. My mind can’t focus on two things. There’s too much going on at once.

My husband gets frustrated because at times he will be talking to me and I have no idea. If I’m watching tv or doing something my mind is so focused on that item, I don’t realize someone is talking to me. It’s as if I go deaf to everything around me. I’m not purposely ignoring the person. My brain literally doesn’t register they are talking to me. That’s hard for someone without ADD to understand.

I remember trying to study in HS and college, and just getting so frustrated. I literally had to study in a room without other people, no tv and no objects to distract me. So a cubicle in the library was ideal. If I tried to study around other people, I would get distracted watching people or daydreaming. An attempt at a one hour study session would turn into a three hour session where I spent most of the time rereading the same page over and over because I got distracted and completely forgot what I read. 📚

I also struggle to remember little things. When I was younger my mom would play a “game” with me and ask me to go get 3 things from my room and bring them to her. A majority of the time I could only remember 2 of those items requested by the time I got to my room. I’m still that way. If someone gives me a list of things to do or get, I have to write it down or I’ll never remember any of it. It sounds ridiculous but I literally write everything down. I do that so I won’t forget. It’s also a great way to keep me organized. I enjoy checking things off a list.

If you know someone with true ADD, go easy on them. They’re already in a hard battle themselves. Living with ADD isn’t easy. It takes a lot of hard work to learn how to deal with it and work around it.

Pregnancy Hangover

A few times a month I wake up feeling EXTREMELY hungover. It literally feels like I drank 2 bottles of wine to myself. Yet I haven’t had a drop of alcohol and I drank plenty of water the day before. 🍷

Apparently it’s the pregnancy hormones. They can actually give you a feeling of being hungover! 🤢

It’s one thing to consciously make the decision to drink, and possibly drink too much therefore leading to a hangover. I however have zero control over this feeling. It’s like my body just says, hey you haven’t drank in a while, let’s have some fun and make you feel hungover without the actual alcohol involved! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Seriously, pregnancy and hormones are so weird. And so not fun at times. 🤔

Gender Guessing

They say you can tell a baby’s gender by things that happen to the mom. I don’t really believe these old wives tales to be completely true. However they are fun to help you try to guess before you find out the real answer.

They say women pregnant with girls have more breakouts because the baby girl is “stealing her mothers beauty.” Oooook. I have two boys and my face broke out horribly, like puberty style, the first three months with each. So that one wasn’t true for me.

They say if you’re pregnant with a boy you’ll get more hair on your head and body due to extra testosterone. Didn’t happen to me. My hair (everywhere) saw no change.

If you crave sweets you’re having a girl and salty a boy. I always crave sweet over salty. Even when not pregnant 😂

If your bull is high it’s a girl, low is a boy. My first baby I carried right smack in the middle. My second was high. Both are boys.

If you get morning sickness the first trimester and throughout your pregnancy, it’s a girl. No major morning sickness is a boy. I had bad morning sickness the first trimester with baby #2, and got it randomly in the second trimester. Baby was a boy not a girl.

They say if you get really bad heartburn, your baby will be born with lots of hair. This was actually true for me! I had BAD heartburn for like two months with Ryder and he was born with a full head of hair!

These old wives tales are fun to read and see if your symptoms fall within what they claim. But don’t take them to heart, because they aren’t 100% accurate. But like I said, they are fun to help you try to guess before you find out for fact if it’s a boy or girl!

Find The Sippy Cup….

Every day without fail, ryder and I play the game “find the sippy cup.” Never played? Be thankful! It’s not exactly what I call fun.

My child loves his sippy cup. He carries it around the house like crazy. I can’t complain too much because the kid is constantly drinking water. He stays hydrated better than me. The only downside, when it’s empty he puts it in random places. I have found it in a shoe, in the hamper, in the closet, in the toy bin, on the windowsill, on the toilet lid, etc.

And no we don’t have just one sippy cup 😂 We have a few, but without fail one goes missing daily and I have to hunt for it. He doesn’t have many words yet so he can’t tell me exactly where it is. However some of the time I can get him to take me to it so the search is short lived.

I feel like the hidden sippy cup is just preparation for other things to be hidden in the future…….

Pregnancy Hair

Pregnancy hair…..people talk about how beautiful their hair looks while they’re pregnant. That it becomes more full and soft. However, there are a few people that don’t have this wonderful result. I’m one of those people this time around. My hair definitely got thicker, but it also became more dry and brittle. 👎🏻

With my first baby it was full and soft. It stayed that way after I had him. I got lucky and didn’t lose chunks of hair like some women. 👩🏼

With this second baby, my hair has gotten thicker but the softness left. My hair started to feel more dry, sort of straw like. It also became more brittle and would break and split at the ends. It confused me because I eat just as healthy with my second as I did my first baby. I’m also working out just as much and making sure I drink tons of water. My doctor says it’s just due to hormones that are completely out of my control. Luckily my hair stylist recommended a hair mask that has helped tremendously! It’s made my hair feel soft and healthy again. 💈

Nounou is the name of the hair mask I use. It’s by Davines. You can get it in salons or on Amazon for $38. I actually just found it online at Walmart for $17! 💰

If your hair is dry and brittle, I definitely recommend giving this mask a try! 💙

Maternity item not to skimp on….

When I was pregnant with ryder, around month 7 I started getting light headed a lot. I actually collapsed in the grocery store once. We went to the doctor and they put me in the hospital for a day to run tests on me. I came back perfectly fine. I was as healthy as can be. But the light headedness kept happening.

Then one day it hit me……It was my pants! I’m not even kidding when I say that. I was wearing my same leggings and workout pants that I wore before I got pregnant. Now that my belly was bigger they were getting tighter and starting to cut off circulation. So after a workout or just having worn them all day, the lack of circulation would get to me and make me light headed.

I know it’s so stupid. I’m sure you’re wondering why I didn’t buy maternity pants/leggings. In all honesty, I didn’t think I needed to! My leggings still fit so I figured why buy new ones!

I have learned my lesson! Just because they fit your legs doesn’t mean it’s fitting to your belly. Even light pressure around your waist can restrict blood flow. They make maternity pants for a reason!

Will you go back?

I would say at least once a week someone asks me if I miss teaching and coaching. My answer isn’t a yes but it’s also not a no. It’s a sort of…..

I loved being in the classroom. Every day was different. I had 180 students with different back grounds, different stories and different beliefs. I enjoyed what I did, most days. I would say 95% of the time I loved teaching. The other 5% I wanted to be anywhere else but in the classroom. I think we all have those days with every job.

Teaching high school isn’t easy. Kids are more opinionated at that age. But I do miss watching students faces when they learned something new. Some with excitement and some with confusion as if what they thought previously was completely wrong.

I have my days where I miss coaching and then those that I don’t. Being a private coach hired in by the school is way different than being a teacher in the school hired as a sponsor/coach as well. The level of respect is different too. When I coached as a private coach with no affiliation to the school, I had limited parent contact. I communicated with the kids and the sponsor and rarely parents. The sponsor was my middle man. It helped keep me out of any drama and left me to just do my job coaching. I also felt the parents respected me more. When I came into contact with them, they treated me like I was the professional and knew what I was doing. It was different when I was a teacher hired in as a coach. Despite my background as a Big12 cheerleader, Semi pro cheerleader, and Worlds Judge, some parents acted as if so had no idea what I was doing. They would constantly tell me how to do my job or attack me if they felt I was doing something wrong. I was excessively dragged into parent drama. You think teenage girls can cause drama?? You have yet to see a group of middle ages cheer moms! It made my job more difficult and more stressful.

Would I ever go back to coaching? Well….If I ever went back to coaching it would be as a private coach, not a teacher/coach. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I described at every school. And I did have some pretty amazing cheer moms who trusted me to do my job and fully supported me and the team. But often times those negative moms overshadowed the positive and made my job very hard and very stressful. So ultimately private coaching would be my go to choice if I had to.

Would I ever go back to teaching? Maybe! I think I enjoyed it enough that I would. But not in the near future. I like being a stay at home mom. I like not missing a minute of anything my kids do. 💙