Hospital Item Must Haves

When I went to the hospital to have Ryder I remember the nurse asking where my bags were. I lifted up my little black bag and said right here! She laughed and said “that’s it?” She then apologized for laughing and explained she was just shocked because most women come in with a giant roller bag as if they are moving in. 🧳

Her comment made me laugh too. I understand wanting to be comfortable but do you really NEED that many items? Here’s what I packed in my bag last time and have done the same for this second baby:

🔹Outfit to go home in

🔹Baby’s going home outfit

🔹Underwear (3 pairs to be safe)

🔹Nursing bra

🔹Shoes to go home in (ones that fit swollen feet)

🔹Toothbrush & Toothpaste

🔹Face Wash

🔹Face Wipes

🔹Face Lotion

🔹Chapstick

🔹Mascara

🔹Face Powder

🔹Hair Brush & Hair ties

🔹Phone Charger

🔹Book

🔹Nurses Treats

Outside of these items I couldn’t find anything else I really needed. The hospital provided us with diapers and wipes while we were there and even gave us some to go home with.

I’m not a huge makeup wearer so I felt it unnecessary to bring tons of makeup or toiletry items.

I know some people like to bring their own hospital robe but I was just fine in the one the hospital gave me. I guess if you want to look cute for pictures then go for it.

The hospital had a tv, but I found it nice to have a book as something different. There were times where I just wanted quiet and a book was perfect to have.

My husband complained about being freezing in the hospital the entire time. I felt fine, but then again I still had so much blood pumping through me it probably kept me warm. If you naturally get cold easily you can bring your own blanket, but the hospital will provide extras if needed.

One item I am bringing this time that I didn’t bring last time is treats for the nurses. The nurses at the hospital were so kind to me the first time. They made me feel so comfortable and kept everything light. I remember laughing quite a few times which I didn’t expect. So as a little thank you for taking care of us, I put together a snack basket to put at the nurses station for them. 🍬

Everyone is different. I know there’s tons of items that people feel they absolutely need that I didn’t. I’m more of a simple person and just brought what I needed to be comfortable. I didn’t want to have to drag a bunch in and drag it all back out. But again, to each their own! Do what works for you!

Baby 1 meeting baby 2

Everyone keeps asking me how I think Ryder is going to handle having a new baby around. I literally have no idea. And all the questions have started making me feel a little guilty. That sounds horrible when I say it out loud. But in all honesty I’m a little nervous. I don’t want him feeling attention deprived or think I love him any less. I’m having a hard time with that right now. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I know the positive patty’s of the world are going to tell me he will be just fine and everything will turn out great. Yeah yeah, leave me alone. I know everything will be just fine, but that doesn’t mean my mom guilt just goes away or lessons any right now. 😢

I know it may take a few weeks and he will eventually adjust to the change and realize I’m still here and still love him as much as I ever have. It just tears at my heart that for any amount of time he would be upset or sad. He’s the happiest kid ever so it breaks my heart to see him upset. 💙

Over it….

I used to love going to the gym. It was my place away from everything. Now I sort of dread it. I literally pray that I’ll just make it through a short workout each time. The pregnancy struggle is getting real!💪🏻

I’m in the last few weeks of pregnancy and everything is getting hard! Putting my shoes and socks on is a battle. Not only can I barely see my feet but I can barely reach my feet to get shoes and socks on! I also get winded just walking around. I had to sit down and breathe after just doing laundry! I’m constantly tired and want to lay down but can’t because I have a toddler running around like crazy. I’m always hungry but I’m running out of belly room so I have to eat tiny meals all the time which is exhausting in itself. I barely sleep at night because of the leg aches, back ache, and overall discomfort. Don’t get me started on the constant need to pee. I’m literally on the verge of going to buy adult diapers! 🤦🏼‍♀️

On a positive note, I have no major swelling. My feet and hands look the same as they always have. I had a little swelling with Ryder that caused me some discomfort but none this time around! My hair and nails also look great. My hair struggled at the beginning of my pregnancy but it’s made a turn for the better! It’s looking shiny, healthy and growing long fast!

Needless to say, these last 6 weeks will feel like they take the longest. Maybe Cam will be like Ryder and get here a little early. In all honestly I wouldn’t mind! I’m ready! Literally! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Clean up

Baby pee, easy clean up. Baby poop, no prob. Baby vomit, not ideal but I’m fine cleaning but up. However, today I had to use my nail to clean a booger out of my kids nose because the wipes, Kleenex and sucker wouldn’t get it……THAT almost made me vomit. I was literally gagging trying to clean his nose. That was definitely one of the hardest things I’ve done in a while! Ridiculous I know. I guess we all have our “gross out” things. 🤷🏼‍♀️

What do you do all day?

Being a stay-at-home mom I’m often asked “what do you do all day?” Sometimes it’s asked harmlessly, and other times it’s asked as if the person thinks I just lay around and watch tv all day. It actually makes me laugh when someone asks that. Some of the time I want to make up something ridiculous just to see what they say in response. 😂

But truthfully my days are never “relaxing.” I don’t get much downtime. Once Ryder started walking, any free minute I had was taken up by chasing him around and cleaning. This kid can destroy a room in under 2 minutes. Yet it takes me at least 10-15 minutes to put the room back together. 🤦🏼‍♀️

His favorite thing to do is take things out of drawers and move them other places. Yesterday he emptied out two clothing drawers and put everything in the bathtub. While I was folding the clothes and putting them away, he was in his room taking diapers out of their bin and throwing them in the kitchen. Once that was complete he found the two kitchen drawers that aren’t baby proofed and emptied them of everything (don’t worry it’s just things like chip clips in that drawer).

The cleanup is never ending. I can’t get mad at ryder because he’s not doing it to be “mean.” He doesn’t know better. He just thinks it’s fun to empty drawers and boxes. We are working on explaining why we don’t take everything out of drawers. But each time he just looks at me like “ok mom are you done, I see another drawer to empty.” 😂

In addition to the daily pick up game, I have food to make, a house to clean, laundry to do, errands to run, etc. It’s never ending. But I’m not complaining. I do love it. 💙

So when someone asks me what I do all day, rather than give the long version, I just say they I chase Ryder around all day. That pretty much sums it up. 🤷🏼‍♀️

224 days down

I have officially been pregnant for 224 days. That’s a long time! Seriously, think about it. Kids aren’t even in school that long each year! But here I am growing a tiny human for what seems like years. (Dramatic I know)😂

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. It’s just crazy how much time a pregnancy really is. I guess I’ve never sat down and thought about how many days it actually is. We always count in months. Which by the way, we claim a pregnancy is 9 months but every doctors calendar puts us due at 10 months. Full term pregnancy is 40 weeks. 40/4=10….So technically we are pregnant a month longer than we claim. (Yes I know some count from the point of conception but doctors go from cycle end)

No wonder the body is SO tired all the time when pregnant. Toting around extra weight that was added on faster than normal is a lot of strain on the body. Yes we are built for it but it’s still draining. Your body is working to do its daily functions AND create a life. That’s a lot of work. Not to mention super crazy to think about the fact that you are actually creating a human!

The Accident

Saturday afternoon was probably one of the scariest moments of my life. While driving southbound on 75, a truck slammed into the side of us. It knocked us so hard we actually drove up into it. Our truck then dropped to the ground and the front of his car drug across the side of our truck. The force of him smashing into us caused us to spin. We spun around twice, smashing into two other cars before coming to a stop.

They say in scary moments your life flashes before you. Not me. I was aware of everything happening around me. I remember feeling the truck lift up a little on one side while we were spinning and thinking ok this is it, we’re going to roll. I remember telling myself to brace and hoping Ryder was ok.

Once I finally collected myself and looked around, I saw six vehicles all banged up. Our truck had settled facing oncoming traffic. Not the safest feeling when on a highway. But my husband, Ryder and myself weren’t hurt and it didn’t appear as if any of the other drivers were badly hurt. Lucky for us, Ryder wasn’t really phased. He was strapped into his car seat tight so he barely moved.

While sharing insurance and talking to police, we were finally given the story of how it all started. One car in the far right lane tried to get over quickly to the middle lane and thought they could cut off a truck in time to get over. However she was closer to the truck than thought and bashed into him. This flung him over to our lane casing him to hit us. While spinning, the front end of our truck hit a car and the back end of our truck smashed into the backside of another before coming to a stop. The car who’s backside we hit was destroyed. Her trunk area no longer existed. It was smashed into her backseat. While all this was happening, people slammed on their brakes to keep from hitting us and the other vehicles, therefore causing multiple fender benders. In total there were 11+ vehicles that ended up getting banged up.

Multiple people came up to my husband and said “I thought y’all were going to roll.” The woman who’s back end we hit even said “I saw y’all coming and thought, this is it, they’re going to roll right over my car.” So I wasn’t imagining the lifting feeling and that thought of rolling. We almost did.

I’m so thankful we were in my husbands F250. That thing is a tank. It’s banged up pretty well but not as bad as the truck that hit us and the cars we hit. I couldn’t imagine how different the accident would have been in a small car or even a small SUV. I’ve always been a Ford lover but after this accident my love for them is solidified. I will forever demand (yes I said demand) that my husband drive an F250. That tank kept us safe. With him driving that kind of truck I know he and our children will be safe. I’d sell my car and drive one too if it wasn’t too big for me.

What’s crazy is two of the other drivers had children under 5 in their vehicles, in addition to us having Ryder and me being pregnant. Because of that woman’s selfishness and need to get over and cut someone off, she put multiple children and however many adults lives in danger.

Why are we always in such a hurry to get places? Or to get around, or in front of people? When we rush, we make hasty decisions that aren’t always the best or safest. People think better when they are calm. I wish people would stop trying to rush through life. It’s ok to be 5 minutes late. Especially when it’s your life, and others lives at hand.