Removing hair ties from hair

I went to my hair stylist and she asked if I pull my hair ties out of my hair with my left hand. Yesssss I do. I was really confused how she knew. She said she could tell by the breakage on the right side of my head. I knew when I pulled my hair ties out of my hair it may do a little damage with pulling but I didn’t think it was anything really obvious. She showed me the difference in the left and right side and what pulling out hair ties does to your hair.

My hair is thinner and broken off more on the right side. That’s because when I pull out a hair tie, I always pull with my left hand pulling from my head out to the left. So it tears at my hair on the right side the most.

She told me to avoid doing too much damage, to unloop the hair tie rather than pulling it. Sounds like something obvious and simple. However when you’ve pulled the hair tie out of your hair for years, you non consciously do it out of habit. I now have to stop my self when taking my hair down and remember to unloop it to let my hair fall rather than pulling.

Spare your hair the breakage! Don’t pull hair ties out of your hair!

Shopping

Truth….I have a hard time buying things for myself. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I don’t want or like to buy things. I think that’s obvious by my credit card bill on occasion. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m just indecisive and I constantly go back and forth as to whether or not I really need the item. I’m not exactly an impulsive buyer. I will put things in my shopping cart (online), leave them, and go back a week later to see if I still really want or need all of those items. Most of the time I will remove half if not more of the items. I think my little process works well for me (and my credit card). It keeps me from ordering things I might not actually need. 🛍

I don’t however apply this logic when buying things for my son. When it comes to him I have zero self control. It’s bad I know. I just love to buy him things! As he gets older, I obviously won’t buy him everything because he will need to learn the value of earning things. But for now while he’s young and has no idea, I’ll spoil him like crazy! 💙

When your child gets injured

Yesterday did not exactly go as planned. We spent the afternoon in the ER getting some stitches. I never thought I’d have to bring my 18 month old in for stitches! I figured we still had a few more years before this kind of thing happened.

While the injury of a child puts a lot of stress and fear in the child themselves, it’s another world of fear for the parents. I kept myself calm and collected the entire time for Ryder’s sake. Now at 18 months he picks up on my emotions. But inside I was absolutely losing it. It’s incredibly hard to see your child in pain and not be able to make it go away.

I’ve been around broken bones and severe lacerations before. I’ve been trained in first aid and concessions. But I’m one of those people where everything just went out the window when it came to my child. I couldn’t tell if the wound was deep enough for stitches or not. I was so panicked my mind just wouldn’t process anything. I wasn’t sure if an ER visit was a must or if I was being dramatic. Now looking back at the pictures I took of the injury, I realize in my right mind, it was definitely a deep cut that required an ER visit. So even in my parent panic mode, bringing him to the ER wasn’t dramatic, it was a good choice.

I hope we will never have to go through something like this again. However, I am logical….I have a boy. It’s bound to happen again. So I’ll pray that god will give Ryder the strength he had this time to be tough through it and not be overly scared. And to give me the strength to keep my composure for Ryder and hopefully give me a clear head to think.

After that stressful day, a few minutes to myself just collecting my thoughts and trying to relax was a must! 🛁

Temper tantrums and meltdowns

My child has hit the stage of temper tantrums and meltdowns. It’s his new thing these days. I’d say we have at least one a day right now. Does this mean he is a bad kid or is spoiled? Absolutely not!

Tantrums and meltdowns are symptoms that a child is struggling with emotions they can’t relate to. When a child is overly stimulated this can cause a meltdown. There’s so much going on that it just becomes too much for them. This can be anything like sounds, visuals, feelings, exhaustion, etc.

Currently my child only has a few words in his vocabulary. So he isn’t fully able to vocalize his wants, needs and feelings. That has got to be incredibly frustrating. You kind of can’t blame him for breaking down and losing it some days. 😂

When Ryder has one of his temper tantrums or meltdowns, I just walk away. I give him his space and I busy myself with something else. After about 30 seconds to a minute he stops. He will look around like ok I’m over this, and go find a toy. It’s like he needed to get out an emotional release. Once out, he’s back to his normal self. I know what you’re thinking…..why don’t you hug him and make him feel better. Tried that! He wants no part of it. During a temper tantrum or meltdown he does not want to be touched. Hence why I give him his space.

If you see a child having a meltdown or throwing a tantrum, don’t automatically assume they are a bad kid. They may just be overstimulated or not able to vocalize their needs. It’s all a learning process. They grow out of it eventually (sort of).

The next time you see a parent who’s child is having a melt down, instead of looking at them like they’re a bad parent, try taking pity on them. It’s not easy, or fun when the meltdowns happen. Each parent is just trying to do their best to get through it and help their child learn from it.

Remember tomagotchi and nano babies?

Anyone have a tomagotchi or nano baby growing up? Yeah me too. I was obsessed with mine in JH. They had to ban them at our school because kids were playing with them during class. Little did they know a few years down the road cellphones would take over their classrooms.

Those little digital animals and babies were addicting. I took as good of care of that thing as I did my actual living dog. I swear those things are what helped prepare me for motherhood. Go ahead and laugh. But think about it. Your goal was to keep the digital pet/baby alive. That’s EXACTLY what you do with your own child. We all say we are going to focus on reading them the best books, feeding them healthy nourishing foods foods, creating the perfect routines, etc. But reality is, we are all just trying to keep them alive, unharmed and fed. It doesn’t sound like a lot, but it is.

Kids aren’t easy. My little nano baby was definitely a cake walk compared to my toddler. However, I love him more than anything and love every minute of my life with him. So I guess I should thank my little nano baby for giving me the determination and patience to keep his little digital self going. It’s the same determination and patience I have with Ryder every day. Ok maybe not exactly the same but my nano baby definitely was a good start to learning. Who says technology can’t teach you something! 😉

Gift idea for a new mom

Have a friend who is having a baby, just had a baby or is adopting a baby and you need to get a gift for them? Here is a list of gifts that are must haves and greatly appreciated by new moms! 🙌🏻

🔹Electric nail filer (instead of clippers)

🔹Wipe warmer (Nothing is worse than the scream of a child from a cold wipe)

🔹Cute bibs (Some baby’s drool a lot)

🔹 Simple onesies (With diaper blowouts, you can sometimes go through 3+ onesies a day)

🔹Bottle Warmer (Safer than the microwave and stove)

🔹Diapers (You can never have too many)

🔹Baby books (My son loves to look at the pictures)

🔹 Sound machine (Drowns out surrounding noises to help baby sleep)

These were all my must haves after I had Ryder. I literally couldn’t have done without any of them! All are practical and not ridiculously expensive! 👶🏻

Cravings

I’m 18 weeks pregnant this week! I feel like my belly is getting bigger by the minute. 😂 I’ve put on 10lbs so far. My doctor tells me that’s the perfect amount for someone my size and age. 💪🏻

I’ve been careful about my weight gain. You don’t want to gain too much, but you also don’t want to not gain enough. While I do monitor how much I’m gaining, I have been enjoying myself. I keep up with my workouts but I don’t deprive myself of any food I may be craving at the moment.🍔

I’m not one who gets a consistent craving. I sort of wish I was. I always wanted to get one of those weird cravings some women get. A friend of mine craved cucumbers her whole pregnancy. She would literally eat a cucumber like a corn on the cob. Another craved pickles and peanut butter. I have a new craving every day. It’s never anything crazy. It’s things like an apple with peanut butter, popcorn, ice cream, avocado toast, eggs, sandwich, etc.🍦

I still have 22 weeks left, so there’s still hope for a crazy craving! 🍩