Comparing Yourself To Others

I stumbled across the most amazing words the other day…..”We often lose our way when we compare ourselves to others. We lose our inspiration, motivation, and that ambitious drive. Compare yourself to no one. Not a single person. You are unique and what make you perfectly different is what sets you aside to crush those dreams.” ☁️

We as a society naturally compare ourselves to others. It’s human nature. Especially those of us that are extremely competitive in nature. While comparison can fuel you, it can also burn you. 🔥

You really should only compare you, to yourself. Compare your current self to your past self. Are you where you want to be? Are you meeting your goals? If not, do something about it! Only you can make the improvement in your life. 💙

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New Years resolution

Just a few days left till the new year. I guess it’s time to make a New Years resolution. I always forget to do these!

This year I think I’m going to focus on being more positive. I’m a pretty decently positive person but I have my moments. I also have a bad habit of letting others around me be negative and drag me down.

My dad was always a very positive person. He could find the good in everything. It was almost annoying sometimes😂. But I admired him for it. I’d like to be more like him. See the good, or positive whenever I can.

It can be hard sometimes when our society naturally focuses on the negative. It’s hard not to get sucked in. This resolution will definitely be a battle and take a lot of my will, but I think I can do it. It’ll be good for me and a good example for my son. I want him to see that you can find the good in everything. 🌸

Food battle

“Are you going to be a picky eater tonight?” Or “why aren’t you eating that? The amount of times I’ve heard these……🤔

Why are we so critical of what other people eat or don’t eat? I’ve battled with a food allergy for almost 10 years now. I’ve gone to dinner at peoples houses and not been able to eat much of anything because they served something I’m allergic to. I’ve gotten better about letting people know ahead of time. But I used to be so shy about it that I wouldn’t eat. A people assumed I had an eating disorder because I wouldn’t eat. Little did they know, on my way home I was eating the protein bar I had stashed in my car and would wolf down everything in my fridge at home!

There have been other times where I had to pick around food in hopes of eating something without getting sick. I’ve been called a picky eater because of this. I don’t really think a food allergy qualifies someone as a picky eater. It’s not really their choice to have a food allergy. If I could get rid of it I would! It would definitely make life easier when eating out or at peoples houses!

Rather than assume someone has an eating disorder or brand them as a picky eater, why not give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have a food allergy! Or maybe they just don’t like what you’re serving. 😂 I think we as a society need to work on being less critical. We also need to worry more about ourselves and less about what other people are doing (in some cases).

Friendship

Only the strongest friendships survive life. I say life because it’s not just the ups and downs. It’s everything in between. Finding a good friend is like finding your soul mate. It’s not easy and you go through so much to get there. But when you find that person, it’s like something clicks.

When we were little we were so focused on making lots of friends. I think it’s fantastic for little kids to be nice to everyone and want to be friends with everyone. But as an adult, that’s an unrealistic hope that we can be “friends” with everyone. I hate to say it, but not everyone wants to be your friend. And that’s totally ok! You just need to find those select few people that you click with.

As you age, if you notice your circle of friends getting smaller, don’t be alarmed! As we get older, people change. Our views and beliefs don’t always align and this can cause rifts in relationships. Some people’s ability to accept can make it difficult and put strain on a relationship. Also, people have different life paths. Sometimes friendships dissolve without any actual problems. People just lose touch. It’s normal for life to get in the way.

My best friend and I don’t have the same views on everything. But we respect each other’s view even if it’s not fitting for us personally. We do however have the same values and similar (not the same) goals in life. We are both very supportive of each other in every aspect of life. That is part of what makes our relationship great. Without a strong support system you will find yourself feeling lost and maybe a bit alone.

Find that friend who encourages you and brings positive light to your life. Someone who can laugh with you at the stupid things. Someone who loves you even at your worst. Those are the friendships that will bring you support, strength and happiness. Find someone who makes you a better person.

Just a smile

“Your smile is your best accessory.”

This is so true. People react differently to you if you use a smile. Think about how often you smile during the day. Are you the first to smile at people or are you smiling in response to them smiling at you? Or do you even smile back at all when smiles at? I’m guilty of zoning out and not realizing someone was smiling at me till they’ve already passed or gone. Then it registers and I feel so bad after! I feel I need to find them and apologize for seeming rude. 🤦🏼‍♀️

One of my favorite things to do during the day when I’m out and about is to ask someone how their day is going. When I’m at the grocery store checking out, I always say hello to the worker and ask how their day is going. You’d be shocked at how rarely people ask others something simple like that. Sometimes I get a confused look and other times it’s as if a switch flipped and the person almost gets excited someone asked about their day. Think about how you feel when someone you don’t know says hello and asks how your day is going. (In a non creepy manner of course) 😉

Sometimes it’s the little things in life that put a smile on someone else’s face.

Try making it a habit to ask at least one random person a day how their day is going. Also, try to be more cautious of your facial expressions. Do more things with a smile. You might find that it actually puts you in a better mood when you do! 👍🏻

Positivity breeds positivity! ➕

That voice in your head

If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced. -Vincent Van Gogh

Often times when we are reaching for a new goal or trying something new, fear and insecurities kick in and you tell yourself you can’t rather than you can. Don’t let the “voice” in your head tell you you can’t. Other people may be negative and discouraging, that’s expected (sadly). But don’t let your own “voice” be discouraging to you. Think positive and be your own biggest supporter! You’ll never get anywhere with a negative mindset.

Growing up I was always told “you can do anything you put your mind to.” If you have the drive and focus, you can accomplish so much!

Workout clothes

Isn’t it crazy how new workout clothes make you feel like you get a better workout? I swear if I could get a new outfit every day I’d have the best workouts! Ok maybe not literally but I’d feel great about how I looked. Positivity in yourself definitely benefits you in so many ways. I used laugh (internally) at people who bought cute or matchy little outfits for the gym. I thought it was so ridiculous to spend a lot of money on something that’s just going to get sweaty and gross. But I understand it now. Those outfits made them feel good about themselves which in turn made them feel like they could do a better workout! Did the outfit change their workout? Maybe a little. They might have been more comfortable and able to move better. But it didn’t help them lift heavier weights or do more reps. It’s all about the mental game. When you feel good about yourself and what you’re wearing, that positivity boosts your mood. A positive mood can give you more energy therefore fueling your workout!

If you’re someone who feels better about themselves when they get a new workout outfit, then treat yourself every so often and get a new one! Make it a reward when you hit certain milestones! It might actually make you work harder and push towards that goal!