Toddler in the house

There’s nothing scarier than waking up at 4am, and hearing someone in your house going through your things……Only to find out it was your toddler who woke up and decided to have his own private play time. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Seriously though. I’ve never been more scared in my life. My husband was out of town and I was home alone with the kids. My oldest son was sleeping in bed with me because he’s still uneasy about the new baby and feeling like he’s going to get “left.” I thought I’d shut the bedroom door tight in case he did get up and wander. Clearly I didn’t. 🚪

There was a banging coming from the living room. I thought I was hearing things at first so I sat for a minute to really listen. It continued and a sort of crash followed. That’s when I knew someone was out there. Now thinking about it, if I’d been more awake I would have realized the dogs weren’t barking or going crazy. They do that if someone is just walking by the house. AND my child wasn’t in bed next to me anymore. However none of that was going through my mind at the time. The only thing I could think of was what do I do if someone is in the house? I knew I had to get to him before he got to my kids. There’s a bat under the bed so I went and grabbed that. I figured of anything I’d use my old softball skills to clobber him with the bat. 🥎

As I walked into the living room, I noticed toys everywhere. Then I saw the shadow of the intruder looked very small. That’s when it registered. It’s Ryder! The kid was up playing with his toys in the dark! I have no idea how long he was up. I’m typically a pretty light sleeper. But somehow he managed to wiggle out of my arms, get off the bed and go out into the living room all without waking me. 🛏

Just when I thought the toddler stage couldn’t get any more exhausting, mine goes and tries to give me a heart attack! ❤️

Terrible Two’s

The “terrible two’s” have begun. I always wondered why people called it that. I’m learning…..just FYI, kids in their “terrible two’s aren’t bad kids. They haven’t turned bad, weren’t previously bad, etc. They are just at a struggling point. 😩

Around the age of 2 kids are learning how to communicate. They’re stuck in a world where they are learning words, and only know a few at a time. They want to communicate but they don’t know exactly how to get their emotions across with words. Not to mention dealing with their own emotions can be overwhelming enough as it is. It can be incredibly frustrating for a little one so temper tantrums and melt downs are extremely common. 😞

The easiest way to get through the “terrible twos” is to be patient and work with your child. Help them with words, and try to be understanding. Know that the temper tantrums aren’t done to punish or embarrass you. They are just extremely overwhelmed and that’s how they handle it. 👍🏻

It’s extremely frustrating at times but you sort of have to put yourself in your kids shoes. Imagine how frustrating how it can be for them. 💙

Temper tantrums and meltdowns

My child has hit the stage of temper tantrums and meltdowns. It’s his new thing these days. I’d say we have at least one a day right now. Does this mean he is a bad kid or is spoiled? Absolutely not!

Tantrums and meltdowns are symptoms that a child is struggling with emotions they can’t relate to. When a child is overly stimulated this can cause a meltdown. There’s so much going on that it just becomes too much for them. This can be anything like sounds, visuals, feelings, exhaustion, etc.

Currently my child only has a few words in his vocabulary. So he isn’t fully able to vocalize his wants, needs and feelings. That has got to be incredibly frustrating. You kind of can’t blame him for breaking down and losing it some days. 😂

When Ryder has one of his temper tantrums or meltdowns, I just walk away. I give him his space and I busy myself with something else. After about 30 seconds to a minute he stops. He will look around like ok I’m over this, and go find a toy. It’s like he needed to get out an emotional release. Once out, he’s back to his normal self. I know what you’re thinking…..why don’t you hug him and make him feel better. Tried that! He wants no part of it. During a temper tantrum or meltdown he does not want to be touched. Hence why I give him his space.

If you see a child having a meltdown or throwing a tantrum, don’t automatically assume they are a bad kid. They may just be overstimulated or not able to vocalize their needs. It’s all a learning process. They grow out of it eventually (sort of).

The next time you see a parent who’s child is having a melt down, instead of looking at them like they’re a bad parent, try taking pity on them. It’s not easy, or fun when the meltdowns happen. Each parent is just trying to do their best to get through it and help their child learn from it.